Today, Alexandra tells us about grace, her radical encounter with Jesus, identity and her writing.
Tell us a bit about how you grew up and your childhood: I grew up in a small town with my family. I have two amazing parents and two siblings, my brother, Nick, and my sister, Tessa. I’m the oldest. I grew up Catholic… I didn’t have much of a relationship with God. I knew of Him, but I didn’t capture the fullness of Him. I would go to church every Sunday, but I had no idea what I was praying for. My grandma was in love with Jesus, and really set a standard within my family for holiness. As I grew up, God kept me. My parents divorced when I was 11 years old, and that broke me. It was a nasty divorce. It really shaped who I was because I had to become the leader of my family at a young age. It was detrimental, and definitely made me bitter. I strayed very very far away from God and wanted nothing to do with Him. The way you train up a child, no matter how far they stray, they’ll always come back – and that was the case with me. Looking back, I am grateful for my childhood because my hardships brought me to Christianity and Jesus.
“Looking back, I am grateful for my childhood because my hardships brought me to Christianity and Jesus.”
Inspiring biblical passage of the moment: “Soon afterward Jesus began a tour of the nearby towns and villages, preaching and announcing the Good News about the Kingdom of God. He took His twelve disciples with Him, along with some women who had been cured of evil spirits and diseases.” (Luke 8:1-2) It is so inspiring to know that women had a place in Jesus’ mission work. Later in verse 3, it talks about how the women provided their substance (finances) toward the work of Christ. Women are not counted out of God’s plan!
Spiritual growth focus at the moment: My current spiritual growth focus is definitely growing my fruits of the Spirit. It’s easy to have gifts and thrive in those gifts, but it’s another thing to abide in Jesus and let Him grow your fruit. I want my character to always supersede my anointing.
“I want my character to always supersede my anointing.”
Profession/Mission: My profession currently is working for God… Doing His kingdom work. Writing books, reading and studying the Word. I’m actually headed to Bible School in January. Super exciting. My mission is to bring the lost to Christ, and to see His children walking in purpose and identity. I spent most of my life with no identity. The devil had given me a name. So when Jesus called me to Himself and gave me a new name, I made a vow to serve Him for the rest of my life – and that includes serving His people. I want to make sure everybody knows Jesus as their Lord and Savior.
If you wrote a memoir, what would the title be? I actually have one written already – it’s called “Grace Is Your Crown.” I’m republishing it soon, so I’ll definitely be posting about it on my social media when I do (fun fact, I’m actually an author). God gave me this title in prayer over a year ago. It means that God’s grace crowns us – the world can’t give us our titles and our accolades. Only God can do that. His grace is enough to cover us. His grace is our most holy gift. We can’t earn it. It was given to us as joint heirs of Christ. His Grace is our confidence. It’s His redemptive power that rose us up out of our graves. I want women everywhere to know His grace is enough. His grace gives us our God given identity. And the grace we carry is an attribute that can mend broken hearts.
“I want women everywhere to know His grace is enough. His grace gives us our God given identity. And the grace we carry is an attribute that can mend broken hearts.”
When did you first encounter God and how did you encounter Him? I first encountered God as a child, through my Grandma always reading her Bible and praying over us. I feel like there was a connection I had with Him, where I knew Him as my all knowing Father. I knew He could see everything I was doing. I knew God was real. Then when my parents divorced at age 11, I lost all belief in Him. Then, when I was 22, I was in the lowest place of my life. I was mentally ill and overtaken by the devil. I was about ready to end my life. I laid in bed and I suddenly got the urge to pray. I looked up to the ceiling and I cried out: “God, if you save me, I will serve you for the rest of my life.” And He literally met me in my bedroom and saved me. It was radical.
How would you describe Jesus? I would describe Jesus as the best Father in the entire universe. He is my best friend. My confidant. My provider. My everything.
How has your relationship with Him changed you? It has changed my life in every single way. He has shaped my mind, my views about life, everything. He changes me for the better and He has made me the woman I am today. I would be nothing without His love.
What has been the darkest time in your life, and how did you see God in it? The darkest time of my life was when I was in my early 20’s, before I became a Christian. I was experiencing mental illness and demonic oppression. The enemy was trying to tell me that I was meant to be a man. I had never shown signs of wanting that, but that’s what the devil was tormenting me with. I was extremely suicidal because I did not want that. I did not have an identity and the enemy knew it, so he was trying to put lies in my mind. God saved me in the darkest mess of my life and took those tormenting lies out of my mind. He saved me and gave my identity back. I accepted Christ because I knew that being a transgender was not right. The world would tell me to accept the thoughts, but God stepped in and made that evil spirit leave me alone. I learned the truth and it set me free.
“I did not have an identity and the enemy knew it, so he was trying to put lies in my mind. God saved me in the darkest mess of my life and took those tormenting lies out of my mind.”
What has helped you grow spiritually in this season? Honestly, just sitting in His presence and praying routinely. Reading my Word, and praying at ALL TIMES. Literally, all times. I made a rule that I cannot wake up or go to bed without seeking His face first, whether its a 1 minute prayer or hours in His presence. It sets my day up for success, and I cannot love others without His love poured into me.
Just read/currently reading (and what has it taught you?): I am currently reading the Book of Matthew. It’s taught me that Jesus was compassionate, and desired to heal ALL who were afflicted by the devil. Not just some, but all.
Top three essentials: Oooooh, this is a hard one… my Bible, my iPad, and lip gloss.
How did God speak to you recently? He spoke to me in my dreams! It’s pretty cool because He will decode them as the days go by. I don’t always instantly know what they mean, but He is always revealing.
Hobby: My favorite hobby is sitting at my local coffee shop and writing. It’s literally my dream morning.
Top three practical tips for staying spiritually strong: Bible time, prayer, and consuming Christian content (sermons, etc), daily. Even when you don’t feel like it. Even when your flesh is telling you to go to sleep. I’ve realized that the enemy cannot penetrate your life if you’re covered by God’s wings in the Secret Place.
Favorite person in scripture? My favorite person in Scripture besides Jesus… it changes all the time, haha. Right now, Rebekah. Genesis 24 is such an amazing, romantic read! Rebekah was fearless, submitted and ready to do anything for the Lord.
What do you want people to learn about God when they look at you? I want people to learn that God’s word is truth. His precepts, His laws, and His boundaries are all reflections of truth and love. That’s what I want people to know when they look at me. God’s truth and God’s love, co-existing.
How do you engage with your community? I am super involved with my church and the activities we have on a weekly basis. I am also constantly trying to engage with my city via social media. TikTok is my favorite way of engaging right now. It’s awesome how we can reach our community through social media.
Favorite holiday? Ooooh, definitely Christmas! I love the busyness and the warmth of the season. I know a lot of people dislike Christmas shopping and all of that, but I absolutely love that… And I love how the world comes together to (knowingly or unknowingly) celebrate Jesus’ birth.
A goal you have? A goal I have is to graduate Bible college with my bachelors, then move on to my masters and ultimately get my PHD!
A special tradition you and your family engage in or keep: I wish we had more traditions! Unfortunately, my family is kind of scattered in different states, so it’s hard to get together. But a tradition we had growing up was our annual Christmas parties. My mom has nine siblings so it was so fun to get together with my 20+ cousins and have an amazing time. I’ll never forget those days!
Question you will ask when you get to heaven? I will ask God about all the times I was late to places because of traffic, etc…. and about all of the times I felt in my spirit not to go certain places, but didn’t know why. I want to know what He was protecting me from!
Thing you want to raise awareness about: I want to raise awareness to demonic oppression. Many people are being afflicted by the devil on a daily basis, and trying to fix it with natural means. I wish people knew their adversary. That’s also part of my mission – to bring awareness to the spiritual war we face every day.
What does your morning routine consist of? Most of my mornings consist of skincare, my hygiene routine, and a matcha latte. I wish I had more of a structure – this question makes me realize I need to get a routine in order, haha. I also pray every single morning. I should probably not get right on social media, so that’s something I have to change.
What is on your nightstand? My 40oz Stanley cup! It’s ALWAYS next to me, filled with water. Along with that is my iPad, and my blue light glasses.
Define Christianity in a sentence: Christianity is a relationship, not a religion – it is oneness with Jesus, it is LOVE, it is faith, and it is hope.
For more Alexandra:
Instagram + TikTok: @itsalexandrakay
Website coming soon!
Until next time, keep witnessing!